We have a house, which apparently makes us the rarest thing here
Looking for somebody who is not choosing us for the address
We have a house in the east end with a driveway and no shared walls, and after five years on this board I know precisely which line of anything I write is the one people actually read.
I am not complaining about the practical reality. In this city it genuinely solves the problem everyone else is stuck with, particularly for five months of the year. What I have got wary of is the specific kind of enthusiasm that arrives immediately after I mention it, which I can now spot and which is never about me.
So I have started leaving it out of the first few messages entirely.
Forty, married twelve years, five of them like this. Three men in that time, one of whom was with us for two years and who never once mentioned the house.
My husband knows everything, is in the house rather than the room, and cooks for people, which everybody finds surprising and which is simply what he does.
Not looking for anyone whose interest changes when the logistics get easy. Not looking for anyone who needs somewhere to go more than he needs a person, and I say that without judgement because this city makes it hard. Not looking for anything that would end the moment somebody else with a house came along.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
She is searching with a partner who agreed to it, so read the label carefully before you read anything else.
- Cuckold, hotwife, stag and vixen: the vocabulary map
- She comes with a partner. Vet both of them
- The first meeting: a drink, all three of you