He would like to be in the room and I would not, and we have said so
Looking for somebody who will not try to break the tie
He would like to be in the room. I would not. We have talked about it for three years, neither of us has changed our mind, and the arrangement is that he is not, because on a question like this the person who says no decides.
I want to put it in the post because it is the sort of thing that gets discovered at an awkward moment. He is not resentful, and he is also not pretending he does not want it. Both of those are true and we have got used to holding them at once.
Thirty four, the west end, married seven years, three of them like this.
What I need is somebody who does not treat this as a negotiation with a gap in it. Two men have gently suggested that I might feel differently once I was comfortable, and one of them raised it with my husband rather than with me, which ended things immediately.
We can host as long as he is elsewhere in the house, which is how we do it.
Not looking for anyone who will campaign for my husband's side. Not looking for anyone who finds an unresolved difference alarming, since most marriages have several. Not looking to explain the reasoning again, because I have given it as much thought as anybody could.
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She is searching with a partner who agreed to it, so read the label carefully before you read anything else.
- Cuckold, hotwife, stag and vixen: the vocabulary map
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