My family would never know, and that is not going to change
Looking for a couple whose own caution is at the same level as mine
Nobody in my family knows anything about this and nobody ever will. I am thirty seven, I live twenty minutes from my parents, I see them every week, and there is no version of the next thirty years in which this comes up.
I say it early because couples ask about discretion and usually get a promise, and I would rather give a reason. Mine is that the consequences at home would be permanent rather than embarrassing, and that means I am careful by habit rather than by request. No photographs. Nothing written that would need explaining. No meeting anywhere within a certain radius of a fairly large extended family.
North York, five years in this, two arrangements of about a year each.
I cannot host, because I live with a relative, and I know exactly how much that costs me on this board.
What I want is one couple, ongoing, ideally people who are as careful as I am, because in my experience one careful person and one relaxed person is a slow disaster.
Not looking for anyone who will find the caution excessive. Not looking for anyone who wants a photograph before meeting, which is a conversation I have had two dozen times. Not looking for a couple who need somewhere to go, because I have nowhere to offer.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
Answering as a couple means screening him together rather than one of you doing it privately. Start here.