Fifty, and I have stopped trying to be the most interesting reply
Looking for a couple who want somebody steady rather than impressive
Fifty. Sixteen years in this. Four arrangements, two of which ran over three years, and I have finally stopped trying to be the most interesting message in anybody's inbox.
What I have instead is a settled life. A house in the west end, work I will do for another decade, two children who are grown and a couple of hobbies that keep me out of trouble. I do not need a couple to fill anything and I think that is the most useful thing I can tell you, because the men who cause problems in this world are almost always the ones with a hole somewhere.
What I want is one couple, seen every fortnight or so, over years. I would like to know the husband properly. In both of my long arrangements I ended up closer to him than anybody expected, and in one case we still speak.
I can host, I will drive, and I am extremely easy to arrange.
Not looking for anyone who wants intensity, at any point. Not looking to be somebody's first, since I am no good at reassurance and I get impatient. Not looking for a couple who are in the middle of deciding, because I have watched that go wrong from close up.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
Answering as a couple means screening him together rather than one of you doing it privately. Start here.
- Screening a third as a couple, not alone
- The six things to agree before you answer anyone
- Rules that survive contact with a real evening