I will always tell you who else I am seeing, without being asked
Looking for a couple who would rather know than wonder
I tell people who else I am seeing. Not the details, not names, just whether there is anybody and roughly how often. I do it without being asked, at the start and whenever it changes, and in four years it has never once caused a problem.
The reason is straightforward. Almost every couple wants to know and about half of them will not ask, either because they think it is rude or because they are worried about the answer. So the information sits there being slightly radioactive until somebody trips over it in month five.
Thirty three, downtown, four years in this. Two arrangements, one of two years.
At the moment there is nobody. If that changes while we are talking, I will say so, and I will expect the same courtesy about whether I am the only person you are speaking to.
I can host, in a building with a front desk, and I will travel across the city or out of it.
Not looking for a couple who would rather not know, which is a legitimate preference and simply not compatible with how I operate. Not looking for anything exclusive by default, though I am open to it if that is what somebody wants and it is agreed rather than assumed. Not looking for anything at short notice.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
Answering as a couple means screening him together rather than one of you doing it privately. Start here.