I am deaf in one ear, so a loud room is a bad first meeting
Looking for a couple who will meet somewhere I can actually hear them
I am deaf in one ear. In a quiet room you would never know. In a busy bar at eight on a Friday I can follow one person and lose the other completely, which is a poor way to meet two people who are trying to work out whether they like me.
For years I did not mention it and just nodded a lot, and I have no idea how many first meetings I lost to seeming vague. Now I say it up front and ask for somewhere quiet, in the afternoon if possible, and the difference is enormous.
Thirty eight, the east end, six years in this. Two arrangements, one of three years, ended when he took a job in Calgary and the whole thing became impractical.
I can host, in a house, which also means a first winter is not a logistical crisis.
What I want is one couple over a long stretch, and a first meeting somewhere I can hear both of you rather than one of you.
Not looking for anyone who will now speak up at me, which people do and which is not the issue. Not looking for anyone who finds the request fussy. Not looking for anything that has to happen in a loud room at a busy hour, which rules out most of what people suggest and is worth the trouble.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
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Answering as a couple means screening him together rather than one of you doing it privately. Start here.