I am out in the 905 and I do the driving, not you
Looking for a couple in the city who will let somebody else make the effort
I live out past the city and every couple I have been with has been downtown, which means six years of me doing the driving and being entirely fine about it.
I mention it because the assumption on this board runs the other way. Couples out here apologise for the distance and men in the city treat it as a dealbreaker, and somewhere in the middle there is a person like me who owns a car, has no dependents, and genuinely does not mind an hour with the radio on.
Forty, six years in this. Three arrangements, the longest three years, ended when they had a baby and everything changed shape, which I saw coming and which was handled well by everybody.
I can host as well, in a house, which is worth mentioning for the winter when a drive in each direction is a bigger ask.
What I want is one couple over a long stretch. I have no appetite for meeting new people repeatedly and I am not good at it.
Not looking for anyone who will feel guilty about the drive, because it is mine and I chose it. Not looking for anything that needs me at short notice, since nothing is short notice from here. Not looking for a couple who want somebody nearby, which I understand and cannot help with.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
Answering as a couple means screening him together rather than one of you doing it privately. Start here.