He reads every message and I asked him to, which surprises people
Looking for somebody comfortable writing to two people at once
My husband reads every message I send and every one I get. That was my idea, not his, and it surprises people who assume it must be a condition he imposed.
The reason is that I am a poor judge of intentions in writing and he is an excellent one. He has flagged three men over five years, twice for things I had read straight past, and each time he turned out to be right. He does not veto anybody and he does not reply on my behalf. He just reads and occasionally says something.
Forty two, North York, married eighteen years, five of them like this. Two men in that time, one for three years.
What that means for you is that you are writing to both of us from the start. Most people find this straightforward. A few find it inhibiting, which is fair, and better discovered now.
He does not attend anything past the first meeting, and we cannot host, which is our permanent problem.
Not looking for anyone who wants a private thread with me, which is the request that always comes in week three and which is always the same men. Not looking for anyone who performs for him rather than talking to me. Not looking for anyone who reads this as a lack of independence, because I set it up.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
She is searching with a partner who agreed to it, so read the label carefully before you read anything else.
- Cuckold, hotwife, stag and vixen: the vocabulary map
- She comes with a partner. Vet both of them
- The first meeting: a drink, all three of you