I have a place to myself, which I gather is the rarest thing here
Looking for a couple who cannot host and have run out of ideas
I have a one bedroom in Queens with nobody else's name on the lease and no roommate, and I have learned that this is worth more on this board than anything else about me. Both arrangements I have had began with a couple saying some version of we have nowhere to go.
Thirty seven, three years in. I put the apartment first because it is the practical thing, and then I would like to say that it is not the point, because a couple who chooses a man purely for his address tends to discover in about six weeks that they do not much like him.
What I would like is a couple I get on with, seen regularly, over a year or more. Both previous arrangements were with couples I would still have dinner with. One ended when they started a family and the other ended because he found it harder than he had expected and said so, which I respected enormously.
I will meet you both somewhere public first and I will not suggest anything else that evening. I ask about health and testing early and plainly and I expect the same in return. I barely drink, which occasionally makes a first meeting mildly awkward, and I have decided I do not mind.
Not looking for anyone who wants to arrange things without him. Not looking to be treated as a venue, which has happened, and which is a strange feeling. Not looking for anything that has to happen this month.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
Answering as a couple means screening him together rather than one of you doing it privately. Start here.