Half a year here, and I have run out of people to ask
Looking for conversation and company, with nothing whatever attached to it
I know four people in this city and three of them work with me. That is the position, six months in, and the part I had not anticipated is that I lost the whole of a life rather than just a postcode.
I was involved in all of this for four years before I moved. Not intensely. I saw one couple for a long time and knew a fair few people around it, and it was the part of my week where I did not have to explain myself to anybody.
Thirty, the city centre, and here is the bit I want to be unambiguous about, because I have read enough of this board to know how a single man asking for friendship reads. I am not fishing. This is not an opening move that becomes something in three months. If a couple wrote to me tomorrow offering exactly what I used to have, I would say no, because I have not got the settled life to do it properly at the moment, and I know that about myself.
What I want is people to have a coffee with who know what all of this is. Somebody to tell about my week. Ideally a couple of blokes, but honestly anybody at all.
I am aware this is a strange post. It took me two months to write and I would rather look odd than spend another winter talking to nobody.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
Nobody here is asking for a date, so none of this is about arranging one.
- What it is actually like, against what you imagined
- How to tell your partner you want this
- When there is no scene where you live