I am in the Valley, and I say so before anything else
Looking for a couple within a realistic drive who value that I said so
I live in the Valley and I put that in the first line of every message I send, which sounds obvious and which apparently almost nobody does. Three separate couples have told me it is why they replied.
The reason I do it is that I wasted my first year having warm conversations with people forty miles away and discovering the problem in week three. Nobody was hiding anything. It simply never came up until somebody proposed a date, and by then two people were disappointed rather than none.
Thirty six, five years in. Two arrangements, one of two years and one of eight months, both with couples on this side of the hill, both of which ended for reasons that had nothing to do with geography.
I have a house with a driveway and no roommates. I can host, and I am equally happy to come to you if you are within a sensible distance.
What I want is one couple, regularly, over a long stretch. I am not interested in variety and I am bad at juggling. Not looking for a couple more than about forty minutes away, because I have watched what happens. Not looking for anything that requires me to be free at short notice, since I work early. Not looking to be somebody's option while they decide.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
Answering as a couple means screening him together rather than one of you doing it privately. Start here.