I was away from all of this for ten years and I am back
Looking for a couple with patience for somebody relearning the etiquette
I did this for four years in my thirties, then my father got ill and I spent the best part of a decade being the person who managed that. He died two years ago. I spent a while afterwards being no use to anybody and then found myself, at forty nine, wanting my own life back.
What I have discovered is that everything has changed. The vocabulary is different, the etiquette is much better than it used to be, and the expectations around screening and health are entirely different and entirely for the better. I turn up with experience that is half useful and half out of date.
The Valley, eight months back, two conversations so far and no meetings. What I want is a couple willing to be direct with me when I get something wrong. I will not be offended. Ten years of hospitals took most of my capacity for embarrassment.
I have a house, no one else in it, and a genuinely flexible schedule for the first time in a decade.
Not looking for anyone who wants to hear about those ten years, which were what they were. Not looking to move quickly, since I am fairly rusty at being a person socially. Not looking for a couple who need somebody current, because I am about a decade behind and honest about it.
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