Three couples in six years, and that is on purpose
Looking for a couple who are looking for one person rather than a rotation
Three couples in six years. I mention the number because it is often read as a lack of success and it is the opposite: I am slow on purpose and I do not see more than one couple at a time.
The arithmetic of that is unglamorous. It means long gaps. It means I have spent months at a stretch not seeing anybody rather than taking something that was nearly right. It also means all three arrangements ran over a year, and I am on good terms with all three couples, one of whom I still have dinner with.
Forty four, the Westside, six years in this. What I want is a couple who work the same way. If you are looking for variety, I am genuinely not your man and there is no hard feeling in that. If you want one person who becomes part of the furniture over a couple of years, that is exactly what I am for.
I have a house and can host. I will drive an hour without complaint and further occasionally.
Not looking for anything occasional or casual, which is a perfectly good way to do this and not mine. Not looking to be one of several. Not looking to start anything before we have met at least twice with nothing attached.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
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