I would like to know two or three women who are doing this
Looking for other women in this, for conversation and nothing else
I would like to know two or three women who are doing this, for no other reason than that I have been at it four years and have nobody to talk to about it.
I have friends. Good ones. Two of them know and both were kind about it and neither has raised it since, which I understand and which has quietly closed the subject. What I miss is the ordinary conversation you would have with a friend about anything else in your life. Not advice. Just somebody who would find a story funny in the right place.
Thirty nine, the east, married twelve years, four of them like this. I am not new and I am not in any difficulty. I am simply on my own with it in a way I did not expect when we started.
Coffee, a walk, messages, whatever suits. I would be as happy with somebody a year in and full of questions as with somebody who has been doing it since before I had heard of any of it.
I am not looking to meet anybody's husband and I am not looking for a couple. If you are a woman reading this and you have wanted the same thing, that is the entire post. Not looking for a group, an event or anything organised. Not looking for advice. Not looking for anything that has a second purpose behind it.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
Nobody here is asking for a date, so none of this is about arranging one.
- What it is actually like, against what you imagined
- How to tell your partner you want this
- When there is no scene where you live