Thursday is the whole of it, cheerfully, for the foreseeable future
Looking for a man whose Thursdays are as free as ours
Thursday evening. That is the offer, and it is the entire offer. Our children are with their grandparents every Thursday and have been for years, an arrangement that predates all of this and exists for completely unrelated reasons, and it happens to be the one evening a week that belongs to the two of us.
We have stopped presenting the constraint as a problem, because it turns out to be an advantage. Nothing has to be negotiated. Nobody is checking a calendar at short notice. The man we saw for two years said it was the most restful arrangement he had ever been in, precisely because he always knew where he stood and never had to ask.
Thirty eight and forty one, Prenzlauer Berg, three years open. She dates. He knows every part of it, is at home, and does the cooking on Thursdays, which he maintains is his favourite element of the whole business.
What cannot work is somebody wanting spontaneity, or whose own week moves around. We cannot do a Saturday. We cannot do next Tuesday instead. If your work is shift based, or your Thursdays already belong to something, we are simply incompatible and there is no clever solution hiding in it.
Otherwise we are easy. There is room here, nothing needs booking, and we have had three years of practice at making one fixed evening feel unhurried rather than scheduled.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
Two people wrote this together, and both of them have to say yes to you. These are the three written for the man on the other end of it.
- What makes a single man read as safe
- Vetting a couple: the screening men skip
- The first meeting: a drink, all three of you