A Sunday walk with somebody I do not have to edit myself for
Looking for a walking companion who knows, and nothing more than that
I walk for two or three hours most Sundays and I have done it alone since my oldest friend died. What I miss is not the exercise. It is the particular conversation you have while walking, where nobody is looking at anybody, difficult subjects come out sideways, and then get dropped again without ceremony.
Fifty eight, retired, Prenzlauer Berg. My wife and I have been open for twenty six years, which makes the arrangement older than a fair number of the people posting on this board. It is settled, it is quiet, and it asks nothing of anybody.
The reason I am asking here rather than in an ordinary walking group is the editing. In ordinary company a large part of my life has to be routed around, and after twenty six years of doing that I would like one afternoon a week where a sentence can just be said and then we can go back to talking about the birds.
Anybody at all. A man, a woman, a couple, somebody thirty years younger who wants to know what this looks like from the far end of it. Company on a walk is the whole of what I am after, I would say so in the first message anyway, so it may as well be here at the top where nobody wastes an afternoon.
I am slow on hills now and I stop for coffee, which I mention because it has quietly disqualified me from two walking groups and I would rather it disqualified me here in advance.
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