Uncertain if we can get it to function...

Hello. I just joined the community this morning. I want to share what’s on my mind and some of my worries, hoping you can offer good advice as I navigate this new territory. To set the scene: my wife and I have been together for a decade. The idea of chastity and denying myself orgasm came from me. We agreed to shift our relationship dynamic about a month ago. Specifically, we’re trying an honor-system approach combining orgasm denial with keeping me locked up. I usually masturbate, but I really like the feeling of desiring my wife and focusing all that energy on her. The first month went well; I think we pulled it off so far. However, things started to shift 4 or 5 days ago. It wasn’t a fight, just a chat about our setup. My wife mentioned that while she enjoys being desired and looked after, my constant state of arousal has been weighing on her. It felt overwhelming. She needs some breathing room rather than having me hang around with those puppy-dog eyes or looking at her like she’s dinner. She wants a husband who thinks about more than just sex. She also found it irritating when I whine for attention and tease too much. On my end, maybe I’m expecting too much. I really want her to engage in teasing me (or edging), even asking for oral sex from time to time, but she doesn’t seem that keen. She was good at light teasing during the first month—kisses and words—but didn’t do much edging or long teases. I’d like more sexual initiation from her, though I don’t think it will change drastically in that regard. She isn’t really into dominating me, which is a bit of a paradox since she often acts dominant. Still, she doesn’t want a husband who does everything for her like a worm, and honestly, I’m not sure I want to be that man either. So here I am, slightly disappointed because I doubt this new lifestyle will work long-term. I worry she won’t bother edging or teasing me enough, finding it too much effort. I’m also anxious about whether I can handle my desire without bothering her with constant arousal. Plus, by holding the keys to my orgasm, she holds power over me (sort of), and right now at least, she doesn’t want that responsibility fully on her shoulders. I don’t want to be the only one investing in this dynamic. Yes, I’ve given up the right to climax whenever I please, but if she ignores me for days, leaving me feeling lonely in my denial, will it work? I need support and reassurance that she enjoys it too; otherwise, what’s the point? I hope some of you have had similar experiences with a happy ending and can offer advice. My expectations might be high, so perhaps I should give her more time. It’s just hard not to keep hoping and asking for attention without constantly claiming it. Sorry for the long post; my English isn’t perfect! Thanks in advance.