Whether Gay or Straight, the Truth of Chastity Remains

It matters that we explain why those of us who live in chastity hold such strong convictions. A person might enter into it just as a whim or to satisfy some curiosity. From there, they can either keep using the device like a toy they pull out occasionally or embrace it as a more significant part of their relationship. For those in the latter group—those who paid attention to how their bodies responded—they noticed positive changes during that trial period.

They realized they had stopped masturbating. They saw that the time once spent on self-pleasure was now directed toward pleasing their partners. They discovered that being denied release whenever they wanted made them more aroused and hungry for sex. With this heightened state, they naturally turned to their partners for sexual attention. Over time, they learned that as long as their partner kept denying them ejaculation, both the arousal and the attentiveness grew. The keyholder, enjoying all this focus, quickly became skilled at teasing and edging their chaste partner, keeping him on edge and ready for action.

My own path into chastity followed a similar pattern. My first device was the CB2000, back many years ago; I considered that my toy. At the time, I didn’t have a keyholder or partner. I simply self-locked and played with the chasity device for several days whenever I felt like it before putting it back in the drawer. After a few months, however, it stayed there more often than not. I wasn’t coupled up then, and while I still enjoyed jerking off, I found the chastity device quite pleasant to experiment with.

Later, after entering into a relationship, our sex life began to fall short of what we wanted over several years. Because both my partner and I traveled for work, we were often away at different times. Sometimes it felt like ships passing in the night; I’d arrive just as he was leaving. While apart or out of town, I would satisfy myself by jerking off. After that release, I felt satisfied for two to four days, losing any desire for sex even if we happened to be home together at the same time.

One day, my partner and I had a sincere heart-to-heart. He felt we weren’t as close as we used to be. I didn’t feel exactly the same way; I thought things were fine. But what became clear was that he placed much more importance on sex within a relationship than I did. To him, sex is the link between two people. Since we weren’t having enough of it, he felt our connection was slipping and that we were on shaky ground.

After that conversation, I recalled playing with the CB2000 years earlier and thought that physical restraint from jerking off might improve things for us. The original CB2000 wasn’t my favorite because it was too bulky and clunky, so I researched newer options and chose the Holy Trainer v2. I ordered it and put it on immediately upon arrival without telling him. When he got home, he found me naked on the couch under a blanket. As he settled in, he did what he usually does: reached underneath to feel around and initiate things. The expression on his face when his fingers brushed my locked cock was priceless. He pulled back the covers and asked what this was. He knew what a chastity device looked like but was surprised I was wearing one. I told him I’d ordered it for us, believing that if he could keep me physically restrained from jerking off and denied cumming, our sex life would benefit. He asked how locking up would help, so we agreed to give it a try.

The HT proved very comfortable right out of the gate, which I wore continuously for a week. By the end of that first week, I was far more responsive to his advances and even acting like an animal in heat. I wanted him inside me—badly. That night’s sex was almost primal; he had never seen me like that before and loved it. Afterward, he urged me to take it off so he could help me release. And as soon as I came, he noticed the shift in my demeanor and realized his mistake. He saw clearly how different I felt when denied versus allowed to cum. “I want that cage back on you,” he said promptly.

This began in March 2017. For weeks at a time—my longest stretch being nine full days, twenty-four-seven—I wore it. During that period, we had more sex than ever before in our relationship. From March to December 2017, I never heard him complain about any relational strain. What also stood out was how he became much more of a dominant partner than he had been previously. He started demanding more from me during sex and exerted greater dominance over the act itself. I loved it.

I’d describe our dynamic as Dom/sub in the bedroom but vanilla outside of it. Whenever we have sex, those roles shift into focus here “bedroom” stands for any sexual activity—whether in the bed, bathroom, kitchen, on the deck, in the car, or out in the woods. Wherever it happens, he becomes Sir and I become his submissive. The understanding between us is absolute; it works.

We do occasionally relax our chastity routine, but never for too long because we both miss it. I crave those times when He teases and denies me release. I love having him in charge, deciding the timing and manner of my cumming. I enjoy how he can keep me on edge for extended periods without letting up. Even after an hour or more of teasing, I remain ready to go again rather than getting a quick climax that lasts only ten seconds; now those feelings linger longer. And once He allows me to cum, I am instantly prepared for sex at any moment. He no longer hears “not tonight—I have a headache.” No, I am always ready. While in chastity, we’ve had up to four times of intercourse in one day—a feat that never happened before.

Furthermore, I discovered that when my cock is no longer the primary focus for sexual gratification, my anus, mouth, and nipples take precedence. My anus has become my main sexual organ now—well, technically it’s about accessing the prostate through the anus. My mouth and throat have also grown adept at pleasing my Dom. Ultimately, I find that my pleasure in sex comes from how well my ass, mouth, and nipples serve him.

Last year, my Dom and I married. Afterward, we discussed taking my chastity to a higher level—a more permanent one—and felt metal was the best route for this. We chose the Steelworxx Looker 01 Titanium with a moveable urethra insert. We picked Steelworxx because we wanted metal; the Looker 01 model allowed our Dom husband to see and touch my cock through the cage, which also aids hygiene for indefinite wear. Titanium was essential due to my nickel allergy; I can’t even tolerate surgical stainless steel, and since the urethra tube touches sensitive internal tissue, titanium became mandatory. The urethra insert prevents me from pulling it out when desperation strikes.

I didn’t give in; I remain a man, and the urge to ejaculate is deeply rooted in our DNA.

We are absolutely delighted with our choice of the Looker 01. It required some adjustment period. On day one, I wore it for roughly six hours, then gradually extended the time daily until by the fifth day, it was on me around the clock. Of all the cages I’ve tried, this is the most comfortable; often, I forget it’s there entirely. The only moment I notice it is when my cock moves against the urethra tube as it swells and shrinks throughout the day. That sensation can actually be quite pleasant. One minor quirk occurs during urination: I experience a vibration most of the time (though not always). It’s a small price to pay for all the other benefits.

As for my Dom husband, he enjoys being able to see and touch my cock while it’s secured in place. He loves teasing it through the bars, heating me up and getting me worked up, knowing that the confinement will only heighten my frustration and eagerness for intercourse.

By the way, Dom isn’t concerned anymore about our relationship stability due to reduced sexual frequency. With me locked up, he gets all the sex he desires—and sometimes even more than that. I’ve also noticed him becoming increasingly dominant over time. It’s a win-win situation.

Ultimately, it makes no difference whether you are gay or straight; chastity functions identically in both kinds of relationships.