Seeking recommendations for underwear

Six years after my wife passed away, I found that living in caged chastity brings me great comfort. It serves as a constant reminder that sexual activity remains an option while keeping me from wasting time and energy on online pursuits or casual, aimless self-pleasure. Stimulation, orgasm, and ejaculation are thus carefully planned, becoming as sacred to me as the love making of days gone by. I have tested several different cages but find them all lacking in some way. However, my primary concern is that activities like tying shoelaces, bending over to pick things up, getting into or out of the car, and sitting in certain chairs can be painful or certainly disruptive to the caged experience, affecting both hardware and software aspects. Tight underwear keeps items close to the body, reducing vulnerability, but causes pain after a few hours. Loose underwear allows the bunch of fruit to be at the mercy of pants that rise up in the groin when leaning over; etc., etc… I believe there must exist an ideal type of underwear that holds everything gently up and away from the body, protecting it from being squeezed or cut by seams, pants, or cages themselves. Any advice would be welcome. Perhaps I missed a key lesson explaining all this!