There is a camera in our elevator and it has decided four years of this
Looking for a man with a house, or a very good imagination about logistics
A camera in the elevator, a camera in the lobby, a desk with a log and a building manager who knows every unit by name. That is not paranoia, it is a standard condo in this city, and it has decided four years of how we do this without either of us ever choosing it.
The practical result is that we go to people. All four years, every time, which means the pool of people we can realistically see is not the pool of people we like. It is the much smaller group of men with somewhere of their own that is not the same problem in a different building.
Forty and forty three, downtown, four years open. She dates monthly or so. He is at home and does not attend past the first meeting, by choice rather than negotiation.
What we would like is a man with a house, which in this city usually means the east end or well out of it, and a realistic view of what a February drive costs.
Not looking for anyone whose building has the same problem, which we know is unfair and is simply arithmetic. Not looking for anyone who thinks nobody is really watching the footage, because that is not the point. Not looking for anything at short notice, since everything here has to be arranged.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
Two people wrote this together, and both of them have to say yes to you. These are the three written for the man on the other end of it.
- What makes a single man read as safe
- Vetting a couple: the screening men skip
- The first meeting: a drink, all three of you