My calendar is decided by a condition, and a cancellation is not a message
Looking for somebody who can take a cancelled Thursday entirely at face value
About one evening in five gets cancelled, usually on the day, sometimes with two hours of notice. It is a long term condition, it is managed, it is unremarkable and it is not going anywhere. When I cancel it means my body has made a decision. It does not mean I have changed my mind about you, or that I am playing at anything, or that there is a conversation to be had about it.
One arrangement ended over precisely this. He was patient for about eight months and then stopped being patient in a slow way that was worse than saying so, and by the end I was going out on days I should not have in order to avoid the atmosphere. That was as much my doing as his.
Forty seven, the inner city, six years open. My husband has been doing this arithmetic for two decades and is entirely unbothered by it. What I need is somebody who can be similarly unbothered from a much shorter acquaintance.
The upside is that when I do turn up I am completely present, and that I plan a long way ahead, which tends to suit people with complicated lives. The other upside is that I will never be offended by anybody else's cancellation, for any reason.
Not looking for advice about my health, or for anybody who has read an article. Not looking for a man who treats a good stretch as proof the bad ones were exaggerated.
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