Fifteen years in the same building, and that decides everything
Looking for somebody from a completely different part of my life
I have worked in the same place for fifteen years with people who have also worked there for fifteen years. We know each other's mortgages. Somebody there once identified a woman in a photograph from the back of her head. That is the environment. It is warm, it is genuinely good, and it would turn on me in an afternoon.
Forty two, out towards Bolton, four years in this. I am not being dramatic and I am not calling them bad people. It would not be malice. It would be a piece of information moving through a room quickly because it is interesting, and by the end of the week it would have reached somebody who knows my sister. There is no version of that I could manage.
So my rules are boring and firm. Nothing within a wide radius of where I work. Nothing with anybody in the same industry, which rules out more of this city than you would expect. No photograph until I have met you, and none afterwards either. And I will ask what you do for a living early, not to judge it, but to map it.
My husband is in it entirely, knows the lot, does not come along. He thinks I am overdoing the caution, and I think he has never sat in that staff room, and we leave the argument there.
If the above sounds like a great many conditions, it is four, and past them I am easy company and quite good fun.
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