Four years sober, and everything here is arranged around a drink
Looking for a couple who will meet at eleven in the morning without a fuss
The workaround is always more awkward than the thing it is working around. I say I do not drink, whoever I am talking to says of course, no problem at all, and then spends two messages hunting for an activity that is not a drink and does not look like a date, and by the end we have both had a small unnecessary ordeal.
Thirty eight, the Stockport side, five years in this and four years sober. It is not a dramatic story and I will not be telling it in the first fortnight, or possibly at all.
The part that genuinely matters is not the drink. It is that the default of this entire world is an evening, in a place where drinking is the activity, lasting three hours, and that is what everybody proposes because it is what everybody has always proposed. I have found that a coffee at eleven on a weekday tells me more about two people than four hours in the evening ever has, and it costs nobody an evening that has to be explained at home.
I do not mind at all if you drink, in front of me or otherwise, and I have never once made anybody feel odd about a glass of wine.
What I want is a couple who will take a daytime meeting without turning it into a special arrangement. After that, evenings are perfectly fine, and I will be the one driving.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
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Answering as a couple means screening him together rather than one of you doing it privately. Start here.