I moved here for work and I know nobody in this world
Looking for a few people who know what my life is, before anything else
I moved here in the spring for a job, and I left behind a small group of people who had known about this part of my life for years. Here I know my colleagues, my landlord, and the woman at the coffee place, and none of them know anything.
Thirty five, the east side. Six years in this, most of it as part of a couple, and I am still part of one. My husband is finishing something up back east and joins me in the autumn, which means I have a strange few months of being here alone.
What I want is people. I am not looking for anything for myself and I would not know what to do with it if I found it. I want two or three people I can have dinner with who already understand the shape of my life so that I do not have to do the whole explanation from the beginning.
I am aware that a woman posting alone on this board gets read a particular way and I would rather head that off in paragraph three than in message four.
Not looking to meet anybody's husband, or wife, in any sense beyond a coffee. Not looking for an arrangement, mine included, until my own is back in the same time zone. Not looking to join anything organised.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
Nobody here is asking for a date, so none of this is about arranging one.
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