I am not being coy. I really do not want another relationship
Looking for somebody who wants an evening rather than a place in my life
I do not want a relationship. I am not saying that as an opening position that softens once somebody is charming enough. Two of the three men I have seen in six years decided that I would come round, and both of them were surprised and hurt when I did not.
What I want is an evening every few weeks with somebody I enjoy. Conversation, dinner, somewhere I have not been. I do not want to be texted good morning. I do not want to be part of somebody's plans for the summer. I have a marriage that takes up all the space I have for that kind of thing and it is not available.
Forty, the east side, married fifteen years, six of them like this. I am told this makes me cold. I do not think I am cold. I am extremely warm for four hours at a time and then I go home to my husband, and everybody who has understood that from the start has had a good time.
He knows everything, does not attend, and finds the whole pattern funny.
We can host. Not looking for anyone who is hoping this becomes something. Not looking for anyone who needs contact between evenings beyond arranging the next one. Not looking to be told that I might feel differently about the right person.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
She is searching with a partner who agreed to it, so read the label carefully before you read anything else.
- Cuckold, hotwife, stag and vixen: the vocabulary map
- She comes with a partner. Vet both of them
- The first meeting: a drink, all three of you