Fifty three, and nothing on this board is written by anybody like me
Looking for somebody who is not surprised to find me here
Fifty three. I have read this board for four years and I have found perhaps six posts written by a woman my age, which is either a gap in the market or a warning, and I have decided to assume the first.
What nobody writes about is that this arrives differently in your fifties. My body has changed, my sleep has changed, and what I want out of an evening has changed with them. I am considerably less interested in being desired at volume and much more interested in a long dinner with somebody clever. Some of that is age and some of it is having done the other thing already.
North of the river, married twenty six years, open for four. Two men in that time, one of whom is still a friend.
My husband knows everything, is not present, and is the reason I started, having spent a decade quietly hoping I would. What I want is one person, occasionally, for a long time. I have no interest in variety and less in a schedule.
Not looking for anyone who is going to be surprised that a woman of fifty three is doing this, and then say so as a compliment. Not looking for anyone considerably younger who wants an experience. Not looking for anyone who needs me to be flattered into things, because I have been married a long time and I know exactly what that sounds like.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
She is searching with a partner who agreed to it, so read the label carefully before you read anything else.
- Cuckold, hotwife, stag and vixen: the vocabulary map
- She comes with a partner. Vet both of them
- The first meeting: a drink, all three of you