Two people in eight years, and I am not looking for variety
Looking for one person, for a long time, or nothing at all
Two people in eight years. The first for four years, the second for three, and eight months entirely on my own in between while I got over the first one properly rather than papering it over with somebody new. The numbers are the whole of what I have to say about what I want.
Forty seven, the western districts, married nineteen years. My husband has known since the beginning and has never once been part of an evening. He asks how it went, is satisfied with a general answer, and that arrangement suits both of us and has never needed revisiting.
What I am not is somebody exploring. I am not curious about the range of what is possible, and I have no interest in meeting several people to see which one fits best. I would like to find one person and then know him for years, and I am content to wait a long time for that rather than begin something I already suspect is temporary.
Which makes me a slow and probably frustrating correspondent. I will want to talk for months. I will eventually want to know that your friends exist, even if I never meet them. I will notice if this is one of several things you are running and I will say straight away that it does not work for me.
The men who have suited me were in their forties and fifties, settled, with a great deal going on, and no appetite whatsoever for anything that had to be exciting on a schedule.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
She is searching with a partner who agreed to it, so read the label carefully before you read anything else.
- Cuckold, hotwife, stag and vixen: the vocabulary map
- She comes with a partner. Vet both of them
- The first meeting: a drink, all three of you