Fifty five, and I have read what this board assumes about that
Looking for a man who will not be surprised by his own interest
I am fifty five. The picture in most people's heads when they open one of these posts is about twenty years younger than that, which I have known for some time and am not going to spend a paragraph arguing with. I am going to be here plainly and let the men who are interested be interested.
The western districts, married twenty two years, seven of them like this. Two men in that time, one of them for four years. My husband has known from the start, is at home, and finds the entire subject considerably less remarkable than everybody else appears to.
What has actually changed with age is that I am much harder to alarm and much easier to bore. Nothing needs explaining to me twice. I am not going to have a crisis about any of it on a Sunday afternoon. I am also no longer willing to sit through a long evening with a man who is talking at me, which I discovered somewhere in my forties and have never gone back on.
I would like one man, every few weeks, good conversation, no expectation of daily messages because I am poor at them. Roughly my own age or somewhat either side. Somebody with his own life running at full volume.
The one thing that reliably ends a conversation is a man being pleased with himself for finding a woman my age interesting. I am not a discovery. I have been here the entire time.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
She is searching with a partner who agreed to it, so read the label carefully before you read anything else.
- Cuckold, hotwife, stag and vixen: the vocabulary map
- She comes with a partner. Vet both of them
- The first meeting: a drink, all three of you