We told his brother two years ago and it has gone better than expected
Looking for somebody who is not unnerved by one person knowing
We told his brother two years ago. That makes us unusual on this board, where almost everybody has told nobody, and it is worth saying because it changes what discretion means in our house.
It went well. He asked two sensible questions, made one bad joke, and has never raised it since except to ask, once, whether we were all right. Having exactly one person who knows has turned out to be worth more than we expected. It means there is somewhere for it to go when something is on our minds.
We are not planning to tell anybody else. His brother is the exception and he understands he is.
Thirty five and thirty eight, the east end, five years open, married nine. She dates, he is at home and involved in every decision, and we can host in a house with a side entrance and no shared walls.
What this means for anybody answering is that one man in this city knows we do this and knows no details about anyone we see. We would not mention you to him and we will not be mentioning you to anybody else either.
Not looking for anyone who finds that one exception unacceptable, though we would understand it. Not looking for anyone who wants to be the second person on the list. Not looking for anyone who talks about who he sees.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
Two people wrote this together, and both of them have to say yes to you. These are the three written for the man on the other end of it.
- What makes a single man read as safe
- Vetting a couple: the screening men skip
- The first meeting: a drink, all three of you