Forty nine, married a long time, and doing this for the first time now
Looking for somebody who does not find a woman my age remarkable
Forty nine, married twenty four years, and this became a real conversation in our house ten months ago rather than a thing one of us said once at a party.
We are not doing it because anything went wrong. The house is quiet now in a way that took some adjusting to, and in that quiet we both turned out to have been thinking about the same subject separately for years. He raised it. I said absolutely not. Six weeks later I raised it again myself.
Northern New Jersey, a house with a driveway and nobody overlooking it, which I gather is a luxury on this board. I have never done any of this. What I would like is to be taken out somewhere, talked to like an adult, and to find out over several months whether I enjoy it. I am not in a rush and there is no version of this in which I meet somebody next week.
He would come to the first few meetings. After that we will see how we both feel, and we have agreed that either of us can stop the whole thing without having to explain ourselves.
Not looking for anyone who finds a woman starting at forty nine either charming or tragic. Both have been said to me in messages already and neither is a compliment. Not looking for anyone who wants to be my education. Not looking to be talked into a pace I have not agreed to, by anybody, my husband included.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
She is searching with a partner who agreed to it, so read the label carefully before you read anything else.
- Cuckold, hotwife, stag and vixen: the vocabulary map
- She comes with a partner. Vet both of them
- The first meeting: a drink, all three of you