Twenty two years married, and a car journey changed all of it
Looking for somebody unhurried, for a woman who has only just started
It started on a long drive home from a wedding, somewhere around the second hour, when neither of us had anything left to talk about and my husband asked what I would want if there were no consequences at all. I do not think he was expecting an answer. I gave him one, and then there was about forty minutes of silence, and then he said all right.
Forty nine, the Stockport side, married twenty two years, and two of those years have had this in them.
That car is the reason I now think the whole thing works better when it is nobody's project. He was not asking to fix anything. I was not sitting on a grievance. It was two people who had run out of conversation deciding to have a real one, and it turned out there was something underneath that had been there for about fifteen years without either of us noticing.
One person so far, for around ten months, ended when he moved for work. It was good, it was uncomplicated, and it changed nothing at home except for the better.
What I would like is somebody who does not treat a woman of forty nine with two years of experience as either a novelty or a project. I am new at this. I am not new at being a person. I know exactly what I think about things and I will tell you.
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