Three years of this and not one person I can tell
Looking for one woman to talk to, and nothing at all beyond talking
I had a whole story ready last winter, a funny one, about something that had gone wrong, and I got about four words into it at a table with two friends before I remembered and turned it into a story about work instead. It was fine. Nobody noticed. I thought about it for a week.
Thirty seven, the south of the city, three years in this, married nine. Everything at home is good. My husband and I talk about all of it constantly and he is the reason it works.
But he is one person, and he is inside it, and there are things you cannot say to somebody who is inside it. That is what I am short of. One woman, doing the same thing, who I could send a message to on a Thursday that begins in the middle.
I am not looking for anything else whatsoever. Not a couple, not a third, not a group, not an introduction to anybody's husband. I want a friend who already has the vocabulary, so that I do not have to explain the first ten minutes of everything.
I am from here and I am careful, so I would want to meet somewhere neither of us has any connection to, which I accept is a strange thing to ask of a coffee. If you have written this same post in your head and not put it up, put it up. I will answer it.
Before the first drink Replying goes through the connected platform, so nothing about you is shared until you decide to share it. Take contact slowly and keep identifying details back until trust is earned. Meet somewhere public the first time, with your own way home from it, and if you are a couple then go together. Tell someone outside it where you are going. Never send money to someone you have not met. And if a post or a reply reads wrong, flag it rather than talking yourself out of the feeling.
Before you answer a post like this
Nobody here is asking for a date, so none of this is about arranging one.