Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Good evening. I am a long time reader, but this is my first post. My wife and I have been experimenting with chastity and D/s for the past 10 years or so. We used a Remy’s for years, but it would create cuts around my testicles and was difficult to keep clean. I was never able to wear it for more than 3 or 4 days which was not acceptable to my wife. About a year and a half ago we ordered a Jailbird from Mature Metal. This was a significant upgrade and with practice I’m able to wear it for extended periods of time without issue. For the past 9 months or so I wear the Jailbird 24/7, generally for 30 days or so at a time with anywhere from a couple of hours to a couple of days break in between lockups. I have no doubt longer lockups are in my future. The Jailbird is a quality device but not without some problems. When I first got the device the weight would make it pull down which made the fit seem incorrect. I was planning to order a smaller base ring and shorter cage to compensate but realized the real issue was with the base ring not staying tight against my body. My solution was to create a belt out of chains that connects to the top and bottom of the base ring and keeps it tight against my body. Now that I’ve gotten accustomed to the chains I can say it makes the Jailbird more comfortable and marginally more secure. I’ve attached a picture for anyone interested. The Jailbird with chain belt still has some shortcomings. Most prominent is that I can pull out. While I do not do this, my wife is not happy with the possibility as she wants complete control. In addition, the open design allows for some contact with penis. Finally, I have found that I am able to orgasm by placing a vibrator on the cage. This creates some interesting possibilities as I can be released without removing the cage but it also creates the possibilty I will release myself without permission. My wife and are ready to take chastity to the next level whereby I have no access to my penis whatsoever without my wife unlocking the device. We are very interested in a full steel chastity belt but would like some feedback from those who use these devices currently, preferably for long periods of time, prior to making the investment. My primary concern is the ability to keep everything clean without being routinely unlocked. For this device to work for us, I must be able to be kept constantly locked for 30+ days at a time. Secondly, I’d like input on the security of the device. Unauthorized removal must be impossible. I’m not opposed to getting pierced for this purpose but I’m not anxious to do it either. Finally, is it possible to orgasm with the belt on using a vibrator or other means? We’re looking at both Neosteel and My-Steel. The My-Steel Untouchable is very intriguing but may be more difficult to keep clean than others. I’m sure these questions have been discussed elsewhere at length. Regardless, I’d like current feedback from anyone using these belts today. Thanks!