Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I came across this forum not long ago. Through other bondage forums, I had already picked up some knowledge about chastity and lockup devices. What surprised me was how seriously some couples take it, something I hadn’t fully appreciated before diving into the threads here.

Once, I mentioned to my then-girlfriend that I wanted her to deny me. One morning after we’d enjoyed great sex and she had reached an orgasm, she suddenly pushed me away and denied me. The experience was thrilling; I stayed turned on for the rest of the day. We went shopping later, but I couldn’t wait to return home to please her even more. That moment helped me understand why people here enjoy being in chastity.

Consequently, reading about chastity contracts and cuckolding really appeals to me. However, one set of questions stands out when members mention never having sex again while their wife connects with another lover, or when a contract says the wife will discard her slave once he is no longer useful.

I assume most couples here began together because they love each other. Most would agree that mutual respect, trust, and sex are key elements of any relationship. So, if a chastity contract introduces cuckolding where the husband becomes a slave, what happens to those core factors?

It makes sense that the sexual dynamic shifts, with the husband finding satisfaction even through denial. But how does he know he is still respected when his wife lets him clean her lover’s cock, handles all the chores, and keeps sex away? How can trust endure if she finds a more permanent partner? It’s tempting for the wife to fall in love with this new man and neglect her husband. So, how do both partners maintain their affection? What sets it apart from simply hiring a random slave?

I realize not everyone here is quite so extreme as to practice cuckolding, enjoy lifelong denial, or hold formal contracts. Yet even then, chastity alters the way you love one another. How do you show love, trust, and respect for each other while living in this state or acting as a keyholder?