Introductions discussion

Hello there, I’m Barbara Desmonsche’s wife and also her keyholder. I thought my post had gone through but realized it was just a comment on Barbara’s blog.

We began our experimentation with chastity a few years back (it was Barbara’s suggestion) and we haven’t grown weary of it at all. The feelings associated with it are wonderful, especially during the first couple of hours after locking up. It offers a fresh perspective that has strengthened our marriage, almost like discovering an entirely new level without realizing one existed before. We noticed that as soon as the lock clicks shut, there is a pleasant and calming mental shift for both of us.

Initially, it felt odd because it wasn’t my idea; I had thought Barbara was a bit eccentric. It took some time to adjust to me being the one receiving orgasms rather than her. She says this is what she desires—to ensure I feel good, among other things. Over time, I’ve seen how effective that approach is and appreciate being thoroughly attended to. What used to seem like kink or taboo (to my mind) is becoming more enjoyable and acceptable. We had fallen into a sexual rut, but Barbara’s suggestion of trying chastity transformed it into something unexpected. Initially dismissing the CB2000 as mere plastic plaything material, I now see it isn’t just that; it acts like a serious marriage counselor—haha.

I’m someone who likes to take charge and handle ‘everything,’ so letting go and giving orders while also asking for help is quite an adjustment. However, this suits Barbara well too, so we are balancing responsibilities around the house as well as our sexual needs. It feels good coming home to find tasks completed that I would normally do; washing all the clothes has been a huge relief, and gradually more duties will shift onto Barbara’s list.

I often read about others earning orgasms by pleasing their keyholder and receiving one in return, but I keep telling Barbara that since she pleases me sexually so much, her chances of getting an orgasm decrease because I am satisfied and not seeking it out. Currently, our t/d sessions have been enjoyable for both—perhaps lasting two, three, or four weeks before granting an orgasm. She asks and wants to know what the outcome will be; I told her it would be spontaneous, though honestly, I’m not entirely sure either. By the way, I really enjoy vaginal intercourse, so abstaining from my own cock is difficult for me—I experience a different kind of climax that way, which could be another topic (ladies please chime in on this). Hmm… perhaps this will become my first thread subject as I am curious to talk with other women about it.

Barbara has surrendered her manhood to me, and I must say I enjoy controlling, playing with, teasing, and denying what is mine. We also notice that she stays harder for longer periods when we play like this!

The next step is marking my territory. Barbara suddenly announced that I should have her tattooed; it never occurred to me before, but the idea appealed immediately, so I am considering it, and Barbara thinks it’s very hot! We experimented with temporary marker writing and temp tattoos during a dungeon party visit, where several people noticed them. One temporary tattoo on her backside read ‘owned by Miss Mary.’ Using markers was fun too; drawing words around the front and thighs served as reminders for the week that Barbara could read.

Looking forward to posting and chatting here—Mary