Introductions discussion

Greetings all. I’m Tony, a 47-year-old who has felt drawn to femdom ever since stumbling upon an article in a porn magazine around age 13. As the years have passed and my reading on the topic deepened, my submissive urges only grew stronger. I’ve been married for fourteen years now, but I only shared my femdom desires with my wife three months ago—the very first person to ever know. To my pleasant surprise and immense relief, she didn’t freak out or demand a divorce; in fact, she was quite understanding about it all. The catch? She doesn’t find being the dominant partner sexually stimulating. So here is my question for any wives or mistresses reading this: What specifically turns you on about our scene? Do you have suggestions on how I might spark more interest in her? Were most of you already naturally dominant, or did your feelings evolve over time? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. My ultimate fantasy involves being chastised and cuckolded, followed by having to clean up the mess. However, given our current situation, that seems unlikely right now. Another question: I’d appreciate honest answers—is there a 24/7 wearable chastity device that isn’t too conspicuous or uncomfortable? It needs to handle exercise well since I like staying fit—running, cycling, and rowing are part of my routine. Are any devices out there suitable for this? The ones I’ve seen so far look rather bulky. That’s it for now; despite the long intro, 34 years of pent-up frustration is finally coming out. Thanks, Tone.