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Yes I have been here before but somehow this is different. This time my wife knows and approves. For the old timers here I accept your lifestyle, to those visitors I say, your presence here is because you seek something; look and pass by if you do not approve. I pass no judgment and would appreciate the same consideration. SHOULD YOU SHARE NO INTEREST PLEASE THIS PAGE NOW For those that do read on please accept this entry as it relates some of my wife’s life and more especially mine. I / we have been dabbling in chastity for about 3 years. With reluctance V (my wife) has humored me and to varying degrees enjoyed some of the benefits of keeping me locked. I think to a large degree us men visit sites like these for some sort of relief from our sexual fantasies and desires. I, and possibly I am not alone, explored the net looking at the many adult web sites. What was I looking for? A release from my sexual frustrations. After 18 years of marriage I still have not learnt to really listen to V until a heart-to-heart a few weeks ago. In the past our sex lives were driven by me; chastity was driven by me too. Yes, V has locked me up anything from 7 to 100 days. Her only complaint was that she thought I was obsessed about sex when I was locked. Yes, V enjoyed my cooperative nature when locked but in retrospect she wished she had the cooperation without the bother of my obsessing; aside from that, she would have kept me under permanent lock up. I know that I love my wife. Afterward, I also know due to the varying terms of chastity that I love to pleasure my wife and adore making her feel wonderful. It gives me no greater pleasure than seeing V enjoying receiving pleasure and trying to extend this pleasure zone. Thus far I feel it has been a very admirable indulgence of my fantasies. Her wits were quickly reached when I was unable to stop obsessing. For the record, this was normally after about a month. So in essence I was playing a game that I hoped V would take seriously. My life is very stressful and I carry the responsibility for many clients with huge amounts of money at stake. I think my game was a wish for someone to take control of those hours when I can forget the hassles of everyday life. V, my sole mate, tried; I regret my inability to see this and appreciate her attempts to accommodate me. TO THE PRESENT The last lockup was Dec/Jan 2010 for about 20 days but ended in mutual failure due to a faulty device. Discomfort levels were too high. I had not reached “critical mass” but we called it off. V was in no way frustrated and quite frankly she was a more / very willing participant and was, (in my assessment) frustrated by the shortness of the lock up. I corresponded with the manufacturer about the problems experienced. The apologies offered were accepted and a full refund was made. Anyway Jan passed to Feb then March. The device supplier contacted us and offered a revised device for trial at no charge, provided the device was tested for at least 3 months. V and I discussed it and she said that if the offer was on the table we must accept. Frankly this was a new revelation. V has medical problems and severe bad mass issues (which have been a little problem in my life due to V’s self-consciousness as a result), so with the arrival of the device we agreed that she would adhere to an approved weight loss program and for so long as she did, losing 45 KG at least 3Kg per month, I would not ask for a release. She accepted on the spot. Another revelation. With another device failure V said I must re-create a full metal belt (if anyone is interested please ask) and now April has passed in lockup with V and I both agreeing it is desirable. So here we are at 28 days; this time V appears to want it. V and I are in a comfort zone. If anyone reads this far, I will post more if interested.