Female led relationships discussion

Hi all,

Our return to a D/s dynamic has been quite the event! Mistress Locksmith started seeing an old boyfriend from years ago, and he is looking for nothing more than friendship and sex with her—perfect timing. Meanwhile, I have received a confirmed date (May 16th) for my release. I’ve already served two additional days in chastity as punishment, which effectively adds a week to the total time since I work away from home.

Now we need your input. Mistress Locksmith is struggling to grasp just how strict and cruel she can be during my training. To clarify, she really enjoys holding onto the key, disciplining my backside, and generally reaping the benefits of being a Mistress. Her main worry is that I am missing out on sexual satisfaction from all this. I have tried explaining how good it feels for me and that daily stress seems to have disappeared completely, but I believe her guilt stems from the fact that having a lover is her dream come true, which coincidentally aligns perfectly with the cuckolding fantasy I desire in our female-led relationship.

When Mistress talks about her new partner, she often tries to reassure me almost apologetically regarding their meetings. On my side, however, I prefer her to be much more assertive and confident that she has every right to have one or more lovers. This has prompted us both to consider how realistic this lifestyle should actually be. Should I really feel entitled to object to anything Mistress decides as we move forward? What if it is something I truly dread or dislike? Does anyone here use a safe word to let their mistress know that an upcoming punishment isn’t something they want to endure?

Mistress would love to hear how realistic this lifestyle can be, which should help ease her guilty and apologetic demeanor. She doesn’t want to embarrass me too much, over-punish until it hurts for real, or leave me sexually frustrated for an extended period. Does she have these concerns? Is there a simple way to help shift her perspective on how strict she can be with me?

We are a patient couple and are confident that everything will become clear as we continue our journey, but we would really like to know how others managed the transition from vanilla living to a D/s lifestyle.

Sissyfrills x