Female led relationships discussion

Hi, I’ve been watching from the sidelines for some time and I have a couple of queries; My wife definitely likes the idea that she gets pleasure while keeping me from finishing. She also grasps the notion of having me handle household tasks or take on duties so that I can win her affection. The main problem seems to be two-fold:

• Alongside the typical male chores (like yard work and washing up), I try to do more feminine activities, which subtly suggests I could make a good sissy maid. For instance, I’ve begun hand-washing her underwear and started ironing clothes—a task I usually avoid). But she seems slightly put off by it; she doesn’t really like that part of it. I assumed taking on extra chores would heighten her desire to give me more orders. Yet that doesn’t appear to be the case.
• She views orgasm denial as something short-term, interested only for a few days or so before dropping back down, almost as if her interest has waned. Her longest record was two months at one point, but it seems tougher than it ought to be (for her) to keep up. I realize every case varies, but I’m curious whether these are common issues that have come up before. Also, is there any Mistress available who would offer advice via email? We’re currently on day #3, and I want to do things correctly so the period lasts longer. Cheers