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Hello there, I’m just joining this community. It’s a relief to see it here. The reason is that it feels much more focused on relationships and makes more sense compared to most other places I know or frequent.
I am middle-aged with a strong marriage to an excellent wife. I have plenty of kinks and fetishes, and I enjoy all of them equally. We are monogamous, married for over two decades, with no kids. My wife isn’t interested in anything kinky or Femdom at all. She is so wonderfully awesome that it really doesn’t bother me much. Before we got engaged, I explained almost everything about my fetishes and kinks to her. It just wasn’t quite her style—none of the flavors appealed to her.
After our engagement, I bit the bullet and let her know that I am also a Dominant. I don’t fully understand why, but it always felt slightly more embarrassing than being oriented toward giving pleasure and happiness to others. She accepted this side of me well enough, though she isn’t keen on role-playing in return.
Our arrangement is that I can browse the web for porn and visit forums, provided I cannot join paid sites. While I lean a bit more towards Femdom and LFA (Long Distance Submission), I do enjoy what people call Bull and Maledom fantasies as well. Actually, looking back at my nearly 30 years of experience in that earlier Femdom scene, I have been much more active as a Dom than as a Sub.
So, this uber-kinky, somewhat pervy partner has lived out my life through fantasy, the Bear lifestyle, and Fetish communities via forums like this one. It is clear to me that you all create these spaces yourselves; thank you for sharing your lives with us. I strongly support aftercare, romance, and respect for everyone else, even when their kinks demand we be a bit cruel or neglectful during sessions or in the days following.
Thanks again to everyone, Vic aka OldBearSwitch