Female led relationships discussion

I want to share what is working in my marriage to make our Dominant/submissive relationship work. Chastity slave husbands, it is wise to be patient that if she begins to accept the lead that you work toward getting your wife and yourself to settle into the roles. That is how it goes from fantasy to real life. The goal is settle, settle, settle. Patience, patience patience. Do not push. Let her discover. Still, my wife and I have a unwritten, quite casual agreement to do something D/s kinky, even if mild, at least once every night. This reinforces our intimacy and makes us connected in our fun way through the next day. She might order me to do this or that all day as part of being in charge, but at night before bed, she might rack me or make me give her a massage or bind me in a closet or scratch me or have me worship her with kisses. Big, small, it all depends on her mood. If she is out of ideas, she might ask me what I want and simply has me top from the bottom. At least once a week, we have our version of sex, where she masturbates with her Hitachi wand and I assist in some manner, like playing with her boobs. I am locked in chastity, as you know, and the more we settle into the roles, the more likely she will keep me locked long term.