Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hi, I’m still new to this and learning all the time by reading topics on this great site. My question is: do any of you still initiate sex? Not necessarily penetration, but just pleasuring your kh? My kh is very vanilla. Even if she wants some pleasure, she’s never the one to make a move. So is it okay for me to come on to her and please her? Or should I leave it up to her to initiate? Thanks, Tom