Introductions discussion

Just wanted to say hello to everybody and introduce myself. I’m a 40yr old male who is married with kids. Our sex life has diminished over the years which led me to prostate play which led to chastity. My wife knows about none of this, yet… I love the idea of chastity and having her in control but its also kind of scary lol. I have tried many devices including the cb6000s, pa 5000 and a host of cheap chinease knock offs that were metal. I’m currently self lock in one of the chinease metal ones which holds some promise. Early in my attempts to self lock I discovered I would simply fall out of the device when working (physical job) which was kinda sad. This lead to getting a prince albert piercing for security and anti-pullout with future devices. I have saved up enough to buy a custom lori device but sadly since the pa5000 didnt work out and hurt too much I’m kinda lost as to what to get. I really love the devices with no ball capture ring. Any questions feel free to ask. Thanks.