Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Have any of you defined your chastity period; set limits for instance for when you need an orgasm like I did or give their keyholder full reign? How about limits for being locked up. In reading over the posts here is appears that guys are all over the place. Some wear their CD 24/7, some just during the day and others, like me, on occasion. I have not really looked into Chastity much beyond a few websites and research as to what device to start out with. The information seemed to be all over the place from using the honor system to turning the keyholder into your Dominatrix.:) I was a little surprised to even find as much as I did online because Fetlife had very inactive chastity groups. Also, a lot of the chastity stuff was associated with cuckolding or feminization. Not something we are interested in at present. After reading all that I did, I could not find out what defines something as chastity versus a plain vanilla couple just waiting for the weekend to have sex. If my wife and are have a busy schedule and set aside one night a week for sex and do not have an orgasm before then, are we involved in chastity or is it only chastity when we say it is chastity and just not circumstance? I do not know what we have but we have defined it the way it works for us. It just seems that our past fetish play had at least some defined elements that could not be confused with just normal actions. I mean whipping someone is not something you find in a vanilla relationship. Going without orgasms for short periods of time is. Very confusing but in the end it does not matter how something is labels I guess. I just found it interesting that there are even chastity forums but the practice of it seems to be all over the place if you just declare what you do as chastity play. Does not really matter but is interesting to discuss. Just as a matter of reference, after my wife recently told me that I would have to wait two more weeks for an orgasm to make Valentine’s Day special, I spoke to her and changed our chastity dynamic. It went from denying me as long as she wanted to, to at least one orgasm every 10 days because that is what I felt comfortable with after experimenting with her. I told her that she still could deny me longer if she wanted to but if it did not matter to her, since I was the one pushing for this, I would like to have an orgasm once a week. Of course she rolled her eyes and told me to make up my mind as to what I wanted after pushing her to deny me longer and longer. We now have limits on our chastity and greatly reduced my locked up time.