Eddie Some Kisses and Strokes Along the Way

OK, I admit it, I am the kinky one. Happy now? I thought I would start this with that admission. We have been married more than 3 decades, and have tried many things over the years (bondage, toys, etc.), but until recently we have never played with chastity. Honestly, if I had known this was a “thing” I would have started this decades ago. But after a discussion nearly a year ago I found that she was doing all that just for me, because it was what I liked. That was a depressing conversation. I set myself a challenge to find something she actually would enjoy, and chastity might just be it. I approached her about 6 months ago with the idea, and it didn’t go over well. She was just not interested, so I backed off. I am not a subtle person, I am retired law enforcement, so by training and personality I am pretty alpha. That makes this chastity thing all the more entertaining, a near total role reversal for us. Not an FLR by any means, but once the bedroom door closes the rules change quite a bit, at least that is what I am looking for. She may decide this is one more thing she is doing just to make me happy, but this time I am doing my very best to make sure she knows that this is something that has real solid positives for her. I never hid that I was interested in this, in fact I have now purchased 3 devices, one plastic 3D printed CB6000 knock-off (a part broke that you cannot get replacement parts for about 6 days into tryout’s), a metal device that has an integrated lock, which given my stature would require 3 hands to install, and now a $19 stainless device from “Wish” that I REALLY like. I need a better padlock, one without the edges, but that is in the works. About a week ago I approached her again and we talked for a while about it. She knows I wear it, have for about a month now on and off, but she has never really engaged, until yesterday. Yesterday, while I was wearing my device, she asked for the key. She has been wearing it on a necklace since, everywhere. She is making comments about people who have remarked about the beautiful necklace she is wearing. She is teasing verbally (nothing physical yet), she is engaging in the game. I asked her if she was enjoying all of this, and she said she enjoys the teasing, but for the rest she is still deciding. I have been off and on straining against my cage for nearly 2 days, and have not been this happy in a very long time. Eddie

Just a bit of background about us. I am my wife’s 3rd husband (she is my first and only wife), she married the first time at a very early age, and she married a very abusive man. Physically and emotionally, not to mention sexually. I knew a bit about that background when we got married, but no details. In that conversation 6 months ago, she started telling me more. 30+ years and I am just now getting details. No wonder she is reluctant, I would be too if that kind of thing had happened to me. Our sex life has never been all that active. Did you know that there are not really all that many sex therapists out there? Really, you would think it would be a popular field with all the fucked up people out there, yet there are only 3 in a metro area of more than a million people. Boggles the mind. We found one that was willing to work with us, and have been seeing them for a couple of months now. No real breakthroughs but progress in that area is usually pretty slow. We are working on reducing the effect her past has on her present, and patience is the key. Wish I could convince my libido of that, I don’t have a past anywhere like hers. I keep telling her that the cage is a means of making sure that she is in control and is safe to be touchy-feely with me. Had to remove the cage for a bit, a small scratch appeared at the base of my penis right in the area where the ring sits. Was working on a 48 hour record, knew the scratch was there but figured with some pain relief cream it should not be a problem (wrong), but the pain was just a bit too much. Otherwise the cage is very comfortable (no sharp edges, no rough spots, no burrs) now that I am getting used to the 45mm ring. Giving it a few days rest then back in, and on with the game. Other than this tiny setback this has been the best week for us in a very long time. One thing I have noticed, wearing a chastity device is REALLY addicting! For me at least. I see it sitting in its container knowing that I should not wear it until that scratch is more healed, but my fingers itch to put it back on. Go figure. I’ll deal with it, somehow.