just started out with it, HTv4 is painful!

hey everyone - what a wonderful board! it’s uncommon to come across such an upbeat and lively digital group. I’m new to chastity, married to a traditional wife who hasn’t caught on yet. I was in San Francisco lately and picked up a HolyTrainer v4 from Mr. S. I believe I sized it pretty well: 55mm ring with the “standard” tube, which fits my penis tightly. I’ve been wearing it for about ten hours daily to see if I can stick with this commitment alongside my beloved wife, and honestly, I’m questioning whether I can handle it. It’s painful! I put on lotion roughly ten times a day, particularly in the morning. I’ve experimented with both standard hand lotions and silicone lubricant. My testicles are moderately large: when I tried a 50mm ring on an HTv3 model, it was just barely big enough for them to pass through. The discomfort in my balls is kind of widespread; I suspect this is because the skin stretches in many areas but also folds where it goes through the ring. Additionally, the spot where my stomach meets my penis gets sore from that wedge-shaped piece pointing backward on the device. I haven’t reached any physical damage yet, but it’s not something I could easily endure long-term; with extended use, actual sores might develop. I’ve checked out reviews like this one: and they make me wonder if I’m overlooking something. If my body can adjust to it over time, similar to getting used to shaving, then that’s fine; I have no rush and can take things gradually. However, if there is an adjustment I should be making now, sooner rather than later would be best. I also wish I had chosen a slightly smaller cage size to help prevent reactions from starting and pushing the entire setup forward. thanks for reading!