Jar of Teases: Ideas and Past Experiences

Greetings all—

My wife (who is also my keyholder and goddess) proposed we maintain a jar for ideas related to our kinky dynamic, including treats and cruel twist tricks that she can use on me once each week.

I have plenty of concepts and fantasies in mind, but I want to steer clear of “toping from the bottom.” My habit of doing so is what derailed my last attempt at a sustained less-vanilla lifestyle back in the day.

If I’m grasping this correctly, once every week on weekends, one of us will draw a folded slip of paper from this jar (which needs a name), and we’ll both follow through with it. The notes shouldn’t exceed a few sentences. Some might include illustrations alongside text, while others will be purely descriptive.

Since I’ve handled 10 days without orgasm so far without issue, I figure weekends are likely to become my sole opportunity for release in the future (a prospect that is both terrifying and highly arousing).

Has anyone here experimented with a similar setup? If yes, how did it go? Are there any hurdles I ought to anticipate?

Furthermore, if you have recommendations for scenes we could explore or treats/punishments she could dispense, please let me know. Just keep in mind that cuckolding, spanking, and rough CBT are not our thing.

Thank you, -FD