FreakyDude The Journey Begins With My Silicone Cage

Hi everyone,

The adventure has started.

My wife and I are a professional couple in our forties living in the DC Metro area, married for over fifteen years. On the surface, we seem like your standard ‘normal’ pair, though we’ve experimented with bondage and her teasing/denying me regularly earlier in our relationship. (I’ve included the “Hello World!” text below to explain how we arrived at this point.)

To sum it up: I got a silicone cage and spent three weeks getting used to wearing it during the day so I could gauge my comfort before handing over the keys on our anniversary earlier this month. Knowing she holds all the keys, and that with the base ring I’m currently wearing I can’t slip the device off…it makes a HUGE difference. The journey began with that first extended lock-up: May 18 Day two in. I performed oral while She read until she drifted off to sleep. I lay there stretched out as far as the cage allows. I loved it! May 19 Also, if you get enough friction, the silicone device can produce a ‘ruined’ drip-out orgasm that leaves no relief. I discovered this when testing my modifications to keep the tube pointing downward. Oops. May 21 I think she is enjoying having me as her ‘kink-boy.’ May 22 She was REALLY delighted watching the prisoner of “Ms. Kitty” dance up and down just by observing her wiggle her hips this morning. May 23 Ordered a Holy Trainer type device this morning, along with easier bondage straps that M wanted. I’ve rubbed oral gel (the kind for teething babies) all over my head so it’s numb in case I get desperate and try to rub through the silicone for a ruined O. May 24 Being locked up for a week while M holds sole possession of the keys is using my body chemistry against me, orienting me more toward her. The power of an erection to redirect the rest of the human attached to it is very strong, I’m finding. May 26 Currently, after being locked in my silicone cage since last Wednesday, I had to ask M for the key last night because my shaft and testes under the base ring were chafing and abraded. I was applying coconut oil and A&D ointment regularly, but it wasn’t enough. M said she looks forward to locking me up again. “You are more cuddly.” She is enjoying this game. (That’s what loving male chastity is - a long foreplay game.) She also enjoyed me using our rechargeable Lelo vibe on her while I was locked, since there was no pressure on her to have to pleasure me as well. (The charge ran down just when it was getting good for her, though. Oops! At least we both could laugh about it.)

So, that is where we stand now.

1. Does silicone have known issues that make it unsuitable for long-term use?
2. I have a Holy Trainer copy being delivered. What should I expect?
3. After the fifth day, I was often getting dripping pre-cum, leading me to put some tissues in my underwear to catch the discharge. Is this the “chastity tears?” If so, how do others deal with it?
4. Why isn’t this lifestyle more common? It seems so logical. I have to say, finding good reading material was tough. The best ‘vanilla’ (as opposed to floggings and “fucking other men in front of your handcuffed and caged hubby”) description I could find about “why male chastity?” says there should be a three-month orgasm-free period for the man as a break-in phase. Gulp! Cuckolding, feminizing me, whips or other implements causing actual lasting physical pain, etc., just don’t appeal to either of us. (Me Bound and caged while she uses her Magic Wand on herself, teasing “don’t you wish you were inside me, instead of struggling a foot away?”, oh yes!):) -FD

(The rest of the background story) Unfortunately, she required anti-depressants starting around 2007 due to work stress. While this improved her mood, it gradually led to greatly reduced sexual responses. I had an interest in chastity and orgasm denial after discovering Altairboy’s site back in 2006, looking for a way to curb overwhelming horniness caused by some mental medication I was on that led to frequent hard erections at work which were difficult to hide. I tried introducing my wife to the idea, but I botched it by explaining based on what were probably not real couple blogs. A lot of sites went right into sissyfication, cross-dressing, and cuckolding (areas that don’t appeal to either of us), and there weren’t any decent inexpensive beginner devices yet anyway. So, this was quietly shelved and not spoken of again. As time has gone on, sexual contact has gotten less frequent. We have been going for several months between sessions with each other. Everything else between us is still good, though. We still talk, are still on the same mental wavelength regarding most things, and actually like and care for each other. We’ve had counseling for our sexual disconnect issues, and our therapist said we interact as a couple much better than most couples she’s seen. It takes a long time now for my wife to get turned on enough for PIV. (Oral hasn’t really been a big priority for her, though I love the taste and sensations of cunnilingus.) By the time she’s ready, I’m so aroused that I usually last at most a couple minutes, finishing way before she reaches bliss. Sadly, I get hit by the hormonal post-orgasm snooze wave and fall asleep soon afterwards, no matter how hard I fight to finish her. Fast forward to 2017. I’ve been waiting since January for security investigations and other processes to be completed before starting my next job, living off severance from my previous job. After a while, I was back to masturbating 2-3 times a day and not getting tasks done at home, as well as neglecting the attention she deserves. So, after discovering that there were now some sites and communities (like this one) for and by actual outwardly ‘vanilla’ long-time couples using male chastity devices as a marriage enhancement—by cutting out frequent masturbation and taking one’s spouse for granted (what I call “The dreaded ‘Yes, Dear’ Zone”)—I ordered a silicone cage in April. I spent 3 weeks making adjustments and getting used to it. I handed her the keys on our anniversary early this month, explaining why I was doing this. Fortunately, I made it clear I didn’t want any outwardly changes in our relationship - no calling her “Mistress” or “Missy”, no wearing women’s clothing and hanging around in bars, no watching her with another man* - just her holding the keys and letting me out when she felt like it for her pleasure, while seeing what changes developed. She (correctly, I think) wondered if this was my ‘mid-life crisis’, and thought it was a much less destructive one than most we’ve seen. Instead of seeking out a new sex partner after 40, as has happened many times, I was recommitting in a very tangible way to my current partner. My wife also thought the device itself is very amusing looking, especially when I attempt to erect and it bounces. She nicknamed it “Ms. Kitty.”;). I confessed when I handed her the keys that my frequent jerking off was why I was getting items on the “Honey, Do” list checked off. She was annoyed that I was doing so, so she is glad that I can’t anymore. After a couple days of me being locked up with her holding the keys, she noticed I am being much more affectionate and cuddly. I think she prefers me this way. She is highly amused that just wiggling her butt or rubbing my arm causes me to heavy breathe now.:) I went 4 days locked up all day and night for the first stretch. Unfortunately, some of my extra security measures to ensure I don’t slip out of the cage when soft caused some abrasions, so I had to be uncaged while those healed. I’ve been back in since last Wednesday. With proper moisturizing, it seems okay now. I know I won’t be unlocked (outside of more painful abrasions) until this weekend at the earliest. I’m fine with that:) She brought up getting some high

-quality satin ribbon worn this weekend with the key around her neck. I hope that’s a positive sign. -Freaky Dude