Conversing with My Wife About Chastity

Hi folks, In case you didn’t catch my introductory post, my wife and I have lightly touched on the topic of chastity a few times, but we’ve been waiting for the right moment to really discuss it. Well, we sort of made time a couple of nights ago, and her attitude is still fairly ambivalent with an “I’ll give it a shot” vibe. Cool. We can work with that.

I’ve given her the basic reasons why I’m interested, and she understands them. The thing is, she’s always been vanilla and more or less in the dark when it comes to most kinky or non-mainstream bedroom activities. Willing to try, but clueless about what/how/why. As such, she wants me to send her some stuff to read (I work away from home for months at a time).

As I’ve been lurking here before joining, I’ve seen some of the suggestions. I plan to send her links to the more sensible pages I’ve found. The “why chastity” page kept for her, some posts by kelmag, some by lion, cagedmonkey, and sarah jameson are all on my list. What am I missing? Basically, I’m looking for realistic blogs from real couples about play in their bedrooms, rather than the fantastical type stuff. We do a bit of BDSM in the bedroom, mostly with me taking the bottom role, but I’m not trying to make this a femdom/permanent denial/males-don’t-deserve-pleasure thing. She really enjoys making me come and watching the results of her work. FLR is fine, as we sort of tend that way in some aspects of our relationship anyway, but we are a pretty balanced couple.

I’m not trying to sell this to her as an “it’s all about you and your pleasure, I want to serve you” thing. Some of that may be true, but let’s be real: it’s quite good for me too. I want to present her with a balanced view of what’s in it for both of us.

Sorry for the long post about nearly nothing, but I’m hoping you have a couple more suggestions. Thank you!