Herbieham A New Path in Chastity

I appreciate this place because it feels genuine and free of nonsense. Here is my experience, offering a slightly different perspective on entering chastity, I believe. My first marriage was intense with kink activities, though it didn’t last long for reasons unrelated to sex…her infidelity. Then I met my current wife, who had also been deeply hurt by an unfaithful husband. Consequently, trust has always been somewhat of a challenge for her. While we don’t live a full-time kinky lifestyle, we do engage in some bondage; she usually does the tying up. We experimented with Chastity before, owning a William Jones belt and a steel cage (which was awful). However, I never stayed locked up longer than a few days at most. Eventually, we let it go. About ten years ago, my wife was assaulted; this hit us hard naturally. Sexual activity basically stopped. Very rarely she might tie me up, giving me some minor relief. Three years back, I purchased a CB 6000s. We tried wearing it for about a month, but I could still escape and ejaculate, finding the device uncomfortable to wear all day. She disliked its appearance (and hygiene aspects). Now, we have been married for 25 years, surprising as it may be, because we are still deeply in love, yet she retains significant trust issues; sex is nearly repulsive to her now, and I completely understand why. A month ago, I bought one of those inexpensive Chinese knockoffs, the Looker, primarily out of curiosity since they are so affordable. Well, the insert part doesn’t quite suit me…but the cage itself works perfectly. I wear the smallest ring with a very narrow gap. I cannot ejaculate, and surprisingly, I also can’t pull it out; it is completely secure. There are some comfort issues when temperatures drop, but after a month, I am still wearing it. Telling my wife was awkward initially: “Oh, what, that again? I thought you had moved past that.” But she allowed me to “try for two weeks.” To both our surprise (and probably hers too), she has grown fond of the changes. She likes that I am more attentive and seem happier overall. But today was a milestone. I asked her honest opinion about the cage, and she said it feels very liberating…she is clearly very pleased with it. Today she even inspected it closely and expressed a desire “to continue.” We haven’t set any specific “release dates,” no strict routine or anything like that. She wants to maintain control, it seems. Ironically, we have discussed sexual matters more in these last two weeks than in the previous two years combined. So here I am, about a month into this setup, desperate for release yet content knowing I cannot easily get it, hoping this can work and keep her as happy as she currently is (as happy as I’ve seen her in years). We have holidays coming up in 2 months; I’m somewhat apprehensive but excited by the possibility that this could be our first real test… Many people claim the chaste lifestyle strengthens marriages…it might actually be true!